This post is for those who are sad, empty, in pain, or even angry on Fathers Day. You may see all the "perfect family" pictures and feel left out.
It's not fair to wonder what it's like to have a dad, or BE a dad, or a dad who lost their kid already. So many different tragedies.
There is no such thing as a perfect family. Every seemingly perfect family has their share of tragedy under the surface.
What does this have to do with the Strategy For Success Challenge?
Well this all ties in with our fitness level and how we eat food, emotional eating, and why or why not we exercise.
What does this have to do with my run last night?
I met my dad for the first time when I was 15 and in a foster home. We had very little contact after that.
I started running at about that time. I hated running. It wasn't me. I wasn't a natural.
I pushed through the beet red face phase and the sore muscles and the nasty shin splints.
My body adapted to running and it became my therapy and I went on to run marathons.
When I was a professional in my job and running marathons my dad had a chance to tell me he was proud of me even though he said he had nothing to do with who I became.
But that is not true. The circumstance helped form who I am. ⠀
Who knows what else I could have done to self medicate if I didn't have running all those years? The running was a blessing too.
I had a chance to forgive him for abandoning me before he died. He had his own issues. He was merely surviving his own luggage.
Don't use your tragedy and pain to be an excuse to be mean and grumpy. Just smile and say something nice anyway. In your own words, whatever they are. I have learned to smile and say Happy Fathers day, even though it's never really happy for me.
I make my own rules. I carry my own hurt beneath the surface. Let the others have their happy moments.
If you have a chance to forgive, give it and move on, especially if they ask for it. It doesn't always mean it's appropriate for them to be a part of your life, but it means you can get on with yours.
None of us gets a free pass, no matter how it might appear to you.
So, make it the best day ever anyway. Make your own rules.
UPDATE on Strategy for Success Challenge
SIGN UP HERE (you must be on Facebook, that's where the challenge is happening). I tried the members forum in the past and it's just too cumbersome for most people.
Many prizes will be given:
Robin Nehila (Mary Kay prize)
Patti Green (Prize to donate)
Jann Perkins (Leggings and joggers)
Tiffney (Portion FIX eating plan)
Donna (Hair care products)
Annie Altenhofen (technology gift)
Katherine Rockey (herbal remedy gift)
Diedra (Young Living Peppermint Essential Oil)
Melissa (her signed book)
Netty (has a prize to donate)
Breann (has a prize to donate)
Amy Malone (Doterra products)
Rachel (has products to donate)
I would like to make a nice post about all the prizes, with your names, websites, and pictures and descriptions of the products. If you have not emailed me your website and pictures yet, please EMAIL ME NOW so I can put together the post.
HAPPY FATHER'S DAY. MAKE YOUR OWN RULES!